Christmas time is made of contrasts.
Christmas can be a time of reconnecting with family and for others it is time to be alone.
It is a time to reflect on the meaning of Christmas, the birth of Jesus and gifts that were given to Him. We celebrate by giving gifts to each other.
Many people from various religions enjoy a few days of rest, recreation and reflection.
The northern part of the world celebrates Christmas with the advent of warm fires, snow, woolly hats and fires. The southern part celebrates Christmas with warm weather, sunshine and umbrellas.
Let 2016 be a time to celebrate different cultures and their special days. With this attitude, we will learn tolerance and respect for each other vs watering Christmas down to being Happy Holiday time!
Relationships can be strained around Christmas, regardless where we are in the world and regardless of our religious affiliation. Often the financial strain can be one of the causes, other times, excessive alcohol and other times bringing family together who have forgotten the art of being together and enjoying each other’s company.
Where does the wellness model of living fit with Christmas?
From the book Five Love Languages by Garry Chapman, there are five different ways of giving gifts to each other.
Touch, when appropriate is a wonderful way of saying ‘I love you’The key to the 5 love languages is to find
the one that is most important to the other person. How often we give someone a hug who would prefer to have quality time with you or the person who would love to mow their lawns however you would prefer to give them a gift!
How do we find out which of the 5 gifts to give? Listening is the key component and the most challenging is to let go of our own needs for love as we tend to give our primary love language. Christmas gives us time to watch and observe the different behaviours. You will see some adults and children opening presents and relishing the contents, no matter what the gift is. Others may unwrap and be superficial in their acceptance, with you feeling a little miffed. These people may not have gift receiving as their primary way of receiving and giving love! Take a breath and start listening to their language. You will find their primary love language through their words and what they do for others.
Now Christmas can take on a whole new meaning with a lot of learning and fun to be had. You can even do a short questionnaire to find out your primary love language. http://www.5lovelanguages.com Share your findings with others close to you so they can have a renewed understanding of your love language.